A DAY FOR MOTHERS
by Amy Perhach - GBSI Communications Coordinator
May is a month in which we celebrate mothers - this year on May 12th we will be celebrating Mother’s Day, a day when we focus on and celebrate the women who raised and nurtured us. We buy our mothers gifts, take them to brunch, and send lovely cards. But what happens for bereaved mothers, those who have lost a child, when the day may bring sadness and pain?
This thought occurred to Carly Marie Dudley, who created International Bereaved Mother’s Day in 2010. It is celebrated a week before Mother’s Day, and this year it falls on May 5th. The goal is to eventually include and acknowledge bereaved mothers on Mother’s Day - a day for all mothers.
As women try to become pregnant or discover they are pregnant, it shapes who they are. Even during pregnancy, women being bonding with their child. And as ideas of motherhood shape the mother, mothers are fundamental in shaping the lives of their children. Mothers impact each and every one of our lives, even if the time together is fleeting.
Motherhood is beautiful, but it is also complicated. With the strong sense of connectedness, loss can be devastating. If her child is stillborn or dies, it can feel like a change of her identity and it can augment how she sees the world around her. Is she still a mother even though she is without a child? Yes, while part of her life may shatter, the fact that she is a mother does not waver.
Whether a mother has a completely healthy baby, her baby deals with an illness, or she has lost a child, she deserves love and recognition just the same.
This May we encourage everyone to celebrate and acknowledge all mothers.