Every January, we look at our lives and think about what we want to change, improve, and many (not all) set resolutions for the year. The meaning of resolution is a, "firm decision to do or not to do something." I don't know about you, but sometimes my best intentions get side swiped by life, kids, stress (a.k.a. global pandemic), my wiring, and let's be honest... excuses.
Proverbs 16:9 says, "In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps."
Proverbs 19:21, says it this way, "Many are the plans in a person’s heart,
but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails."
Jeff and I are both goal-oriented people, but we have learned that as we delight in the Lord (Psalms 37), leaning into His voice of grace, we can rest; for HE will do what He plans for our lives, even if it's more uncomfortable than we'd like (#Mary #Peter #Paul #Moses #Esther....)
His answers are not always our solutions.
Writing down goals is a good, healthy life practice. However, instead of resoluting (is that a word?), consider what area God wants you to focus on this year and lean into His whispers for you. For example, want to eat healthy? Ask God to help you see your value and worth and see how eating becomes less about looking good (or numbing our emotions) and more about nourishment. Want to exercise more? Ask God to help you love your body and help you appreciate what IS beautiful instead of what needs changing. Meditate on Psalm 139. Want to drink less? Or, stop comparing, spending too much money, binging on social media? Start with processing more honestly in journals, praying, and talking with a safe friend.
Often our "goals" are the fruit of something deeper. Goals can be a longing or desire of our heart and God wants to meet us there. He wants to do HIS thing in and through us.
It's usually in a round-about way, not a straight linear line.
Every year I get a word to focus on and this year (like last year), my word is trust.
What's your word? Your focus?
So, Courageous Girls needs a word too. Since we are about being daughters rooted in grace, 2021 is going to be about what it means to be "rooted."
Rooted in our identity. Rooted in our families. Rooted in our CG groups. Rooted in our communities.
Let's explore this focus for this year and see what God does. After a whirlwind year, my guess is that God has some things to show us as He gently takes our sweet (and sometimes spicy) faces and points our eyes to Him. Let us become women who know our worth and live that out in every aspect of our lives through a slow. steady. drip. of God's amazing grace.
Terra (and Jeff)
Words of Love "For onceyou were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light! For this light within you produces only what is good and true." - Ephesians 5:8
Perhaps you breathed a sigh of relief when the calendar turned to 2021, feeling like life might some how be “better” or “different.” Unfortunately, when circumstances are the metric of a successful year, we will always feel a weight of disappointment. What if we reframed our perspective on 2020 and carried that lens into 2021? Check out our latest blog on“Lessons Learned in 2020 - A Good Hard Year.”
Leading our Daughters
Who has a daughter (or son) turning double digits, becoming a teenager, or turning 16? Sneak peak...watch for a blog (posting Monday, January 25th @mycourageousgirls on FB/IG) of how one CG mama found an innovative and beautiful way to rise above the noise of tween and teen culture to speak the truth of how love is defined and point her daughter’s heart to her Maker. You won’t want to miss this awesome idea and profound story by Amy Oliver!
Parenting is a hard leadership role. Being a healthy wholehearted leader means we have a relationship with those we lead. Do you really know your kids? Play therapy tip for the month:
We bet you have spent A LOT of time with your kids this year. However, they need quality time. Not just quantity time.Take 30 minutes this week of uninterrupted play time with each of your kids (if she's older, play looks more like chilling on a bed and listening to her favorite songs). If you can do this consistently over the month, you will see a shift in the way your children respond to you outside the 30 minutes.
Ask your child what they would like to do for 30 minutes.
Turn off your phone and all other interruptions.
Tell them you are all theirs for 30 minutes (give a 5 minute warning as you are wrapping up)
Spend time following their lead.
Notice things about them. Get to know them better. Lean into the details of what they say, what they like, how they play, and what gets them worked up. Mirror it back and let them know you see them.
Courageous Girls has partnered with Oregon artist, Stephanie Schmidt, to create a limited edition “Beloved-Beauty from Brokenness” kintsugi vases. What is Kintsugi? It is a Japanese art form of bonding broken artifacts with gold. Even in the midst of brokenness, beauty can be found. In fact, the brokenness can be mended into something that is far stronger than its original form. Beauty from ashes. Truly, it is through God’s GRACE that the brokenness is made into something beautiful again.
These Beloved kintsugi vases are inspired from the words of Isaiah 61 (beauty from ashes) and 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (His grace is sufficient), and are each handmade by Stephanie for our Courageous Girls Community.
To learn more about the Beloved-Beauty from Brokenness Kintsugi Vase and the Beloved handmade card please visit our CG Shop.
Each month we will feature a mama/daughter duo from around the globe. This month our mama/daughter duo will be sharing how they get to share God’s light in their community.
Liz Dooley is wife to Jon and mom to two courageous daughters, Rowan (13) and Finley (10) in Portland, Oregon. Finley was diagnosed with a life threatening birth defect at 20 weeks gestation and that journey led to Liz creating the nonprofit Ladybug CDH Foundation and its flagship race (Ladybug Run for CDH Awareness) to raise awareness and provide support to other families facing that same diagnosis. It was the love and light their family received during their darkest seasons, that inspired them to be the light for others as well. Serving others is part of the heartbeat of the Dooley family.
When not trying to survive a worldwide pandemic in their jammies while binging on Netflix and Disney+, the Dooley family loves spending time at the beach - preferably on Oahu, but any place with waves and sand will do.
Be sure to listen to Liz and her daughter Finley in this month’s CG Mini Podcast, airing January 22nd. You won’t want to miss this one!
Tag @mycourageousgirls to share your CG story.
Being Daughters Rooted in Grace
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