Today I'd like to talk about mindset and keeping it positive. Personally, I’m drawn to people who have an anti-victim mentality, and I recently had the opportunity to visit with two people who emit loads of positivity despite challenging health realities.
One of them is a doctor who has been a trusted health provider of mine for nearly two decades. Last year, when I went to her office for my annual exam, I was told she had taken a leave of absence to deal with a serious health issue. This year, when I returned for my exam, she was back, and we finally had a chance to catch up.
Here’s what she told me: Yes, she had taken a leave of absence, but it had been shorter than she anticipated. She went on: Her medical diagnosis had been a complete shock, but once she had gotten over her initial fear, she quickly found ways to feel positive about her situation despite the seriousness of her disease. She said she was grateful she had been able to rely on her own medical knowledge to make the right decisions about her care, and that through her extensive network of medical colleagues, she had known exactly which specialist to see about treatment. Talk about turning lemons into lemonade!
The other person is a dear friend of mine who has been suffering from shoulder pain. On a recent visit to her home, I could tell she was in pain and started to express concern and sympathy, but she cut me off. “What good does it do to complain,” she told me, right before explaining that she had made an appointment with a specialist to try to remedy her pain. Next, she dismissed the topic altogether. No whining there!
I share these examples because I’ve noticed that many people don’t seem to be able to recast negative experiences. Life throws lots of challenges our way, and it’s easy to play the role of the victim. But people with the ability to switch the script and take on the role of the problem solver are often more successful and happier overall, even if they have survived tragedy and disappointment.
I hope these examples help you to reflect on your own mindset. Are you falling into the victim trap? If you are, let’s talk.
-Holly Don’t miss my Wednesday Wisdom blog, which I post on my website and social media channels.