Changing our perspective is the first step to self-improvement.
What if you took a different view?
I love it when a client I’m coaching says, “I’ve never thought about it that way before.” When I hear these words, I know we’re on the right track. Considering a new perspective doesn’t mean your previous viewpoint was inaccurate, but it’s a good way to start thinking about different possibilities, different outcomes, different realities. This is when real personal growth begins.
Why is considering a different perspective, someone else’s, so crucial? Because it will help you to become more effective in your interactions with colleagues, family members, and even your children. Many of my clients complain of feeling annoyed after exchanges with a supervisor or team member. What is the source of this annoyance?
Let me share a story about Angela (not her real name). Angela felt irritated every time her supervisor talked to her about a new product marketing campaign. As a tenured employee with significant experience, Angela felt annoyed by her supervisor’s questions. While they had a good relationship, the questions, some of which were repetitious, started to make her feel that her boss didn’t trust her.
I knew Angela’s supervisor trusted her. I also knew that he had a tendency to check in on team members (a bit too often) to ensure budgets and timelines were respected. His inquiries had little to do with Angela’s expertise. When I shared this insight with Angela, she took a deep breath and said, “Ah, I’ve never thought about it that way before.” Her smile confirmed to me that she was armed with a new perspective for future interactions with her supervisor.
I know from my own experiences that I don’t always have an accurate take on what others are thinking. I get too focused on my own perspective, leaving my blinders on and my mind closed to others’ views. This causes frustration and inefficiencies in my dealings with others.
What about you? Do you have your blinders on? Let’s talk about it!