How to sow roots in your community, connect with other power ladies, and own your life.
If you've been here with Sown since the beginning, this is officially the 💥17th💥 time this email newsletter has graced your inbox. Growing up, I always picked 17 as my lucky number just because it's the same date as my birthday (and purple as my favorite color because it was my first word, etc. — they seemed like good reasons at the time!).
Writing Sown has helped me think harder about making friends in adulthood. It's helped me consider who the people I am trying to become friends with actually are; to acknowledge that none of us really know what we're doing; to invest money in myself by joining a knitting class at a craft store in my neighborhood; to email random people out of the blue and convince them to let me ask them a bunch of questions for Sown; and to work up the courage to invite the five random people I know around here to a birthday dinner (after not being ashamed to Google "how to spend your birthday by yourself").
But I want to know how it's helped (or hasn't helped!) YOU. In the first issue, back in the dark wintry depths of January, I told you all that my goal was to make sure this is worth your time. And I told you how I hoped Sown is for you, it's for me, and it's for all of us who are looking for more in our homes: more friends, more courage, more to do, more challenge, more comfort, more camaraderie.
If you fill it out, you'll be entered into a drawing for my eternal gratitude and potentially something cool (it's in the works!). THANK YOU all for sticking with me (and Sown!) for this long — it really means a lot.
On relationships and cohabitating: "He already lived alone and had a large New York network, so this was purely my own roadblock, and I examined it to a pulp: Did I really care so much about living alone? Was I just romanticizing it? What if it was too hard, too expensive, too lonely?"
Community in the tradition of Ramadan: "Growing up in Dhaka, Bangladesh, Ramadan became the epitome of togetherness and community for me. During that time every year, I remember people bustling about in fresh markets, grocery shopping to prepare for the evening’s fast-breaking meals, and how the fabric stores were packed with people shopping for their Eid outfits."