The friendship toolkit feature edition:
- Books on friendship I've spotted (reply to this email to let me know what ones I'm missing!): The Female Persuasion, Post-Grad, Hey Ladies, Text Me When You Get Home, um all the Princess Diaries books (have you read the Royal Wedding one?), and a bunch more here.
- Why you should stop being so hard on yourself: "Research shows that the No. 1 barrier to self-compassion is fear of being complacent and losing your edge. And all the research shows that’s not true. It’s just the opposite,” meaning that self-compassion can lead to greater achievement than self-criticism ever could.
- The one word that could help you make friends in a new city: Hint — it starts with a "y".
- To some people's surprise, third-graders and senior citizens can become friends, thanks to this touching program in Seattle: "What I get from them is having a marvelous new friend. When they come in, I think, ‘Wow! They’re back!’ It’s such a thrill."
- Pick your poison: a Netflix movie about a girls' trip to Europe or SNL's parody of female friendship Instagram roasts (with Nicki Minaj!)
- Make friends with your home: this four-part short series on doable updates for your apartment/shed/home/yurt can literally help brighten up the space. (Itching for redesigning? Here's a handbook on fully updating your space.)
- Are you considering relocating? These towns want to pay you to give them a try (no, seriously). I bet they'll be extra friendly.
- Sometimes, you just need to talk it out: "Alexa, what should I do with my life?"
- Australian accent alert: listen to this discussion on the changing art of friendship.
- Navigating the awkwardness of office friendships: "Say you’re leading a big project, and your friend’s contribution to that project is a total mess. Or maybe your friend is lately not doing her share of the work, which means you are too often doing it for her. What are you supposed to say? What are you supposed to do? And how can you say or do that without damaging your friendship in the process?"
- Best friends for over 40 years, and it still takes work: "Even if you’re middle-aged or elderly, it doesn’t mean you can’t go out there and make new friends. Establishing new connections and friendships isn’t something that stops after you leave school or when you retire; it’s a lifelong process."
- And remember: May was Mental Health Awareness Month, but it's something to keep in mind (both of you and your loved ones!) all year long. Here are some tips for how to do that.