3rd Thursdays - Let go of what no longer serves you
Through times of uncertainty, how do you find clarity?
Welcome to 3rd Thursdays, a quick-read monthly newsletter for the 3rd Thursday of every month to help make room for more abundance.
In 2019, I knew I was fast approaching my 20th year of remission from brain cancer in 2020. It's been one heck of a ride and I wanted to created a message about what I learned about success over the past 2 decades.
As I reflected on my journey all of my breakthroughs began with a moment of clarity. During my 1st year of remission in 2000 and 2001 I experienced major anxiety and depression issues coming off a year of chemotherapy. Throughout my year of treatment the doctors had me on massive doses of steroids which were therapeutic in my recovery from each month in the hospital.
However, in addition to making my face bloated and triggering extreme mood swings the steroids also deprived me to an average of 3 hours of sleep per night over the course of 12 months. Needless to say, I spent a lot of time reading, writing, and reconnecting cognitive neurons during those sleepless nights.
When treatment ended the mental struggle began to amplify.
So I don't take you too far down a rabbit hole lets just say that I had to navigate through some rough waters. Our economy had just entered a 2.5 year recession (the dot-com recession), most of my friends had begun their careers, mom and dad got back to a normal routine without taking me to the doctors office regularly, and I battled some serious depression as I tapered from all the medications. I was in a haze.
I felt trapped between 2 worlds - One that was keeping me safe from harm as my white blood cells replenished from chemo. And another that gave me permission to create and live a life of my choosing.
I had plans to back pack Europe with my best friends after college graduation. But instead I was diagnosed with brain cancer and began to learn other lessons life had to teach. When I finished chemo I thought, "How great would it be if I came full circle and went to Europe?"
As several months wore on this daily aspiration became a chore and a burden. I still experienced side effects from treatment. Rashes would surface on my skin, I had some balance issues, and struggled to have conversations. My struggle was stringing words into complete sentences which weighed on my self-confidence.
For 10 months I struggled but the battle wasn't within my physical limitations. The battle was in my mind.
Every day, I dwelled on the aspiration that I "had" to go to Europe. I was attached to an outcome. Then in a moment of clarity I asked myself a different question.
"What would my life look like if I didn't go to Europe?"
It was that moment of clarity that released me from the shackles of an aspiration from the past.
I let go of what no longer served me and focused on the process to move forward. That was the monumental moment which catapulted me into an incredible new vision.
My challenge for you on this 3rd Thursday is to identify a repeatable dialogue that shows up in your daily thoughts.
What is it saying to you?
Does it serve you?
What would life look like if you let it go and created a new narrative?
Finally, describe the feeling when that task has been accomplished and the space you've created in your mind to allow for more abundance. Find a reason to celebrate, even if it's a self affirmation, "Yep, I got this".
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Thank you for your time. Stay tuned for the next issue of 3rd Thursdays on Thursday, November 19, 2020.
Keynote / B2B Sales Leader / Scholarship Giver www.DANNYHEINSOHN.com Transform Obstacles into Results