Take a deep breath, Friend.

We know the holiday stress might be starting to weigh on you.

That stress might be affecting your body in more ways than you think.

This month we’ve been talking all about reproductive health on our Instagram page (@mysexbio). We’ve teamed up with amazing experts to bring you a wide range of information on caring for your reproductive and sexual health, and we want to share that with you in our November newsletter.

It’s important to take some time in all the holiday chaos to pause and listen to your body.

Focusing on your reproductive health can lead to a greater overall well-being. And – in the opposite respect – not caring for your body and/or mental health can lead to a decline in your reproductive health. It’s all connected!

Kathryn D. Ewers, MFT, a relational and individual therapist, might have said it best when she told us:

“Reproductive health is not just going to a doctor and getting pap smears and prostate exams; it is knowing your body inside and out; how it feels, how it works, how it secretes, how it moves. It's truly amazing.”

We reached out to Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce, who specializes in embracing and caring for your “sex energy” to learn a bit more about how we might begin to “know our body.”

“Sex energy,” Dr. Nancy told us, “when we understand Chakras, comes from the Sacral Chakra. It is in the vicinity of the reproductive system. It is what is considered the ‘source’ of creative and sexual energy. These two energies are intertwined. Our overall health is related to the health of our sex energy. It is where inspiration, motivation, creativity, bonding, life force all emanates from.”

Embracing your sex energy can lead to a clearer sense of self.

You can embrace this energy in so many ways.

For example, you might embrace it through mindful practices of sitting with yourself and focusing your attention to your reproductive organs for a set amount of time.

Denell Barbara, (@cervicalwellness on Instagram), spoke with the My Sex Bio team about the importance of this practice:

“When we allow ourselves to slow down and quiet down enough to notice the subtle layers of our body and being, we begin to recognize that we’ve actually had the answers all along… This shapes our identity by giving ourselves full permission to be who we are. Our body wants to live, and knows how to keep alive. When we rest in trusting our body to guide us and lead the way, we open up to more joy and pleasure in every moment.”

Listening to our bodies is the best way to know what it needs and to connect to our sexual health and wellness.

Practicing this listening regularly can also help shape your identity and allow you to tap into who you really are and bridge the gaps between yourself and your body.

Talk to your doctors, talk to your children... honestly, just talk!

What is needed most in our lives is the freedom to talk about our reproductive health without judgement. Changing that starts with YOU!

1. You should never feel weird about speaking with a health practitioner about your body and any concerns you have. (If you do feel uncomfortable, find a different practitioner immediately.) Health practitioners can be a great resource if you’re embarrassed to reach out to those in your personal life, and they will likely have the best advice if you’re unsure of what your body needs. (Remember to look inward as well!)

2. You might also consider speaking with a sex therapist or coach. Mental health is a large factor in reproductive/sexual wellness and seeking a therapist that specializes in sex, sexuality, relationships, intimacy, etc. could be an enormous benefit.

“We work with folks to rewrite that narrative of shame,” explains Kathryn D. Ewers. “We support them in overcoming their sexual anxieties and validate their experiences. We provide a space of compassion and acceptance. Just as we would with someone suffering from grief or depression.”

3. Talk to your children about their reproductive health! Remember when we learned all about talking to kids about sex back in July of this year? Well let’s bring that knowledge into play here!

Our monthly themes are not mutually exclusive – they weave together and intersect in infinite ways. We need to begin speaking to kids about sex and their own bodies from the moment they are born. Their own reproductive organs shouldn’t be foreign to them, they should be a part of them, just as familiar to them as their arms and legs.

4. Teach proper (and inclusive) reproductive health in classrooms. We had the privilege to speak with Sexologist and Sex Educator, Emily Depasse what she thought about this topic. “While I see sex educators on Instagram filling in some of the gaps on social media, we need to start in the classrooms,” she said. “Even the most comprehensive classrooms fail to address the information that students actually need to live sexually competent, confident, and pleasure-filled lives.

"We cannot expect one another to communicate candidly about our sexual health, desires, and boundaries with our partners if we have not yet developed the vocabulary within ourselves. Cumulatively, communication is one of the biggest tools missing from sex education classrooms.”

Fun facts about reproductive health:

Did you know that…
  • Having regular orgasms can actually benefit your reproductive health by detoxifying your body, helping you sleep and relaxing you.
  • Practicing kegels 1-3 times a day can strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and regulate blood flow to your reproductive organs.
  • Eating a healthy, well-balanced diet has the power to increase your fertility and overall reproductive health (we recommend consulting your nutritionist to determine what is best for your body).
  • A majority of penis-owners over the age of 60 experience some level of erectile dysfunction – it is a natural changing of your body, not a “dysfunction.” Embrace these changes and listen to what your body is asking for as you move through these changes in life – it might mean shifting away from orgasm-focused sex.
  • Living with various reproductive health issues doesn’t have to mean you are always suffering or that your body is imperfect. In fact, according to Alexandra Camara (an Endometriosis advocate): “Endometriosis has shaped me in ways I can’t even begin to explain, it has taught me to be strong, resilient, brave, patient and knowledgeable.”

Practicing reproductive and sexual self-care is empowering!

April Davis, of the Vagina Blog (@thevaginablog on Instagram) told us, “[sexual empowerment] means knowing and loving your body and finding that vulnerable, safe place within yourself to experience pleasure.”

Sound familiar?

Knowing and caring for your reproductive health can lead to increased sexual empowerment and self love.

Writing prompt:

In what ways am I currently practicing reproductive self-care?
How do these practices make me feel? Excited? Empowered? Worn down?
In what ways can I bring more of reproductive self-care into my life?
This voluntary monthly prompt invites you to explore your sexual biography.
Tips on exploring this:
Set aside 20 minutes with your phone on silent and relax yourself in a comfortable space with a pen and paper. Go slow. Start with what comes to mind from your first read of the prompt. Continue writing your stream of consciousness.

Researching our sexual biographies:

Do you regularly take time to listen to or be mindful of your reproductive organs or sexual energy?
Yes          No
Each month we ask a question in support of our leading mission at My Sex Bio. As we grow we plan to help fund and supply research for sex education. The results of these questions may be shared on social media as well as the following month’s newsletter. These results will also help curate relevant content for our readers, like you, moving forward. Responses are voluntary and anonymous.
—The MY SEX BIO Team
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