I want to share a recent experience that reminded me how important it is to ebb and flow with the spaces we occupy.
Last week, I decided to switch the guest bedroom (/office/studio/playroom) with my bedroom.
When I moved in, I decided on the placement of the rooms based on the quality of light.
The room I initially chose as the “guest/office” room is bigger and much brighter during the day. It made sense to me that the sunnier room would be a hub of activity — the place where I did most of my working, living, playing, etc.
"What else do I need to do in my bedroom but sleep?" I thought. I figured the smaller and less sunny room would be most appropriate for my bedroom.
But since moving in, so much has changed.
When I chose the smaller room, I was not yet co-parenting my 4-year-old niece. (If you haven’t heard, I started sharing childcare responsibilities for my sister’s youngest child with my mom a few months ago. You can read a little more about that here.)
When I chose the smaller room, I was working with a company and creating audio content almost weekly, and I needed designated office space for all of my recording equipment.
When I chose the smaller room, I was in a long-distance relationship and spent most of my nights sleeping alone.
None of these are my truths anymore. In just a few short months, three foundational aspects of my life changed.
A few weeks ago, I looked around my house and realized the way things were just didn’t make sense for the life I’m living now. The truth is:
When your life changes, your space must change with it.
As you evolve internally, things in your external world must — and will — evolve as well.
Now, with half of my week spent with a four-year-old who takes up a LOT of space (and likes to regularly rehearse “five little monkeys jumping on the bed”🙄), having the smaller room doesn't make sense.
Now, with more of my time dedicated to personal projects instead of collabs, I don’t need a spacious studio/office space. Work takes up less of my time (thank God), and it needs to take up less of my physical space as well.
Now, in a season of releasing patterns and relationships that are no longer in alignment with my current needs and desires, I want more room for dreaming, resting, and simply being at home with myself.